Parents & Loved Ones' Resources

Sending a child off to the University of Michigan is also a new stage of life for YOU, the loved one. Your role as a loved one is to understand and accept that the changes are part of the process of them becoming adults. This transition, while exciting, can at times be a trying experience. As a loved one, you may be in the best position to help them through this period of adjustment and change.

If you are concerned about your student and want to recommend counseling support for them at CAPS, we encourage you to look at all the free, confidential counseling options available to them as a first step in finding appropriate help for your student. Please explore our website for further tips and resources available at the University of Michigan.

Tips for new U-M Parents, Guardians, and Loved Ones

Support
Be available to talk and touch base regularly while fostering their growing sense of autonomy and offer guidance.
Listen
Get to know their reactions to their new world. Their reactions are not the same as yours. Your student is not you and may have different needs, likes, skills, and desires than you have. Also, be alert to signs of unresolved stress in your student. Experiencing some stress when entering a new situation is quite normal. You can reassure your student of this.
Empower

When you problem-solve with them, encourage your student to take an active and equal role in the problem-solving process. It would be best not to immediately tell them how to resolve a problem. Instead, ask them, "What ideas do you have? What do you think will work best for this situation?" Teaching them how to problem-solve will contribute to their sense of competence and self-reliance, which will be important skills to have as they go through life.

Encourage

Your student will most likely face new challenges. Be familiar with campus resources and ensure your student is setting realistic expectations. If, however, the stress persists over time and you believe that it is interfering with their daily lives, encourage them to come talk to a professional counselor in a safe, confidential environment here at the UHC Counseling and Psychological Services office. We are here to help!